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Monday, October 5, 2026

The Sentence That Saved Me: My Philosophy Is Simple — Do Your Bit, Detach From the Noise

What’s a personal mantra or philosophy you live by?

The Sentence That Saved Me: My Philosophy Is Simple — Do Your Bit, Detach From the Noise

If you had asked me for my life philosophy in my thirties, I would have given you a complicated answer. Something about success, ambition, five-year plans, and proving a point to the world.

Today, at 65, it fits into one line.

Do your best, and let go of the rest.

That is it. That is the mantra I try to live by. Not every day perfectly, but every day sincerely.

It sounds almost too simple, doesn’t it? We live in a world that loves complex formulas for happiness — seven habits, ten rules, twelve steps. But I have found that life does not reward complexity. It rewards clarity.

This philosophy did not come from a book. It came from life quietly teaching me the same lesson until I finally listened.

  1. Do Your Bit, Properly

In our scriptures, it is said far more beautifully: Karmanye vadhikaraste — you have a right to your action, not to its fruit.

For years, I got this backwards. I worried about the fruit. Will this project be appreciated? Will this person reciprocate? Will this effort be recognised?

That worry made me anxious and, quite frankly, less effective. The moment I shifted my focus to just doing my bit — with honesty, with diligence, with care — a strange calm came over me.

Whether it is writing an article, helping a younger colleague, or just tending to my morning walk, I ask myself one question: Did I do this as well as I could, with the right intention? If the answer is yes, my job is done.

The result is not my business. My effort is.

  1. Detach From the Noise

The second half — let go of the rest — is harder. Much harder.

We cannot control people’s opinions, the market, health scares, or how our children choose to live their lives. We can only control our response to them.

Earlier in life, I carried everything. If someone was upset, I felt responsible. If a plan failed, I replayed it for days. I was living in results that had not even happened yet.

Detachment is not indifference. It is not saying “I don’t care.” It is saying “I care deeply, but I will not let what I cannot control destroy my peace.”

I have learned to do what is needed and then step back. To give advice when asked, but not force it. To work hard, but not tie my self-worth to the outcome. It is a daily practice, not a final achievement.

  1. Why This Philosophy Works, Especially Now

In this later chapter of life, this mantra has become my anchor.

When your body does not recover as quickly, when you see friends face difficult times, when you realise time is finite — you understand that peace is not a luxury. It is a necessity.

Doing your best keeps you useful, engaged, and self-respecting. Letting go of the rest keeps you sane, humble, and free.

It has improved my relationships. I listen more and expect less. It has improved my health. I sleep better when I am not arguing with life in my head. And it has made my work more joyful, because I write and create for the love of doing it, not for the anxiety of how it will be received.

You do not need to control the ocean to avoid drowning. You just need to learn to float.


So that is my philosophy: Do your bit with integrity. Let life do its bit in its own time.

It will not make life perfect. But it will make you steady when life is not.

What about you? If you had to write your life philosophy in one sentence, what would it be?

Sunday, October 4, 2026

Get Lost to Get Found: The Art of Really Exploring a New City

What’s the best way to explore a new city?

Get Lost to Get Found: The Art of Really Exploring a New City

There is a particular thrill that comes with arriving somewhere for the first time. The streets don’t know your name, the map is still a puzzle, and every corner could hide your new favourite coffee shop. But in an age of five-star lists and must-see reels, it is remarkably easy to visit a city without ever actually exploring it.

The best way to explore a new city isn’t to tick off landmarks. It is to learn how it breathes. Here is how to do it properly.

  1. Ditch the Itinerary for the First Morning

We all love a good plan, but give yourself half a day with no plan at all. Leave the hotel without a destination. Turn left because you like the sound of a bakery, not because Google Maps told you to.

Put on comfortable shoes, keep your phone in your pocket, and walk. Walk with curiosity, not purpose. Notice where locals queue for lunch, where children play after school, where the old men gather for a chat. A city’s true character is rarely on its high street; it is in the lanes that run parallel to it.

A gentle rule: If you get a little bit lost, you are doing it right.

  1. Start with a Market, Not a Monument

If you want to understand a place, go where it shops and eats. Markets are the living room of any city.

Arrive early, buy something small – a piece of fruit, a local cheese, a cup of chai – and just watch. Ask the stallholder what they would recommend. That five-minute conversation will teach you more than any guidebook entry. You will learn what is in season, what people are celebrating, and how to say thank you in the local tongue.

  1. Use Public Transport Like a Local

Taxis are comfortable, but buses and trams are classrooms. Hop on a bus with no real idea where it is going, sit near the front, and watch the city change through the window.

In London, it is the top deck of a double-decker. In Coimbatore, it might be a town bus to RS Puram. Pay attention to how people make space for each other, what music the driver is playing, and which stop suddenly empties half the bus. That is where something interesting is happening.

Buy a day ticket. It is the cheapest tour you will ever take.

  1. Eat One Meal You Cannot Pronounce

It is tempting to search for “best restaurants near me”. Resist it for one meal.

Walk into a busy, unassuming place where the menu is handwritten and the staff are too busy to fuss over you. Order what the table next to you is having. If you are travelling solo, sit at the counter. Food is the fastest shortcut to trust, and in many cities, it is still an invitation to talk.

If you have dietary needs, learn to explain them in two or three words of the local language. People appreciate the effort enormously.

  1. Find the High and the Low

Every city reveals itself from two perspectives: from above and from below ground level.

Find a high point – a church tower, a park on a hill, a rooftop cafĂ© that does not charge an entry fee. Spend twenty minutes simply orienting yourself. Where is the river? Where does the old town end and the new begin?

Then go low. Find the old quarter, the riverside path, the canal walk, the steps that lead down to the water. That is where you will find the pace of the city before cars.

  1. Talk to One Person Who Is Not Paid to Talk to You

Concierges, tour guides, and waiters are wonderful, but they are paid to be helpful. The magic happens when you chat with the bookseller, the tailor mending clothes on the pavement, the university student waiting for the same bus.

A simple opener works wonders: “I am visiting for the first time – what is one place here you love that visitors miss?” Most people light up. They are proud of their city, and they will send you somewhere no blog has ever listed.

  1. Keep a Small Notebook, Not Just a Camera

Photographs are lovely, but they make us spectators. A notebook makes you a participant.

Jot down the name of the street with the jacaranda trees, the price of jasmine garlands, the funny sign outside the barber’s shop. Sketch the door knocker. Write down three smells and three sounds. When you get home, those scribbles will bring the city back more vividly than a hundred photos.

The best souvenir you can bring back from a new city is not a fridge magnet. It is a small habit – a way of greeting, a recipe, a morning walk – that you have borrowed and made your own.

So next time you arrive somewhere new, do not rush to conquer it. Let it unfold. Linger longer, plan less, and say yes to the inviting, slightly uncertain detour.

That is where the real city lives.


Travel tip: If you are over 60 or travelling at a slower pace, split your exploration into two short walks – early morning and late afternoon – with a proper rest in between. Cities are kinder when you are not tired.

Saturday, October 3, 2026

The Moment I Felt Most Alive

What’s a moment in your life that made you feel truly alive?

The Moment I Felt Most Alive

There are moments in life that do not announce their arrival.

No trumpet sounds. No clock stops. No one tells us that we are standing on the threshold of a memory we shall carry for the rest of our lives.

They simply happen.

And years later, when the world has changed, people have moved on, circumstances have altered and our own reflection in the mirror looks slightly unfamiliar, we remember that particular moment and think: Yes. That was life.

Not merely existence.

Life.

We often imagine feeling truly alive to be associated with extraordinary events—a wedding, the birth of a child, a promotion, an adventure, a journey to an unfamiliar country, perhaps even the achievement of a long-cherished dream.

But sometimes the most profound moments are deceptively ordinary.

A bicycle moving along a quiet road at dawn.

The first sip of tea on a winter morning.

A child’s laughter from another room.

A song from an old radio suddenly transporting us to a forgotten decade.

A hand resting gently in ours.

A classroom becoming silent because a child has finally understood something that seemed impossible a few minutes earlier.

Or perhaps sitting alone beneath an evening sky and realising that, despite everything, one is still here.

Still breathing.

Still capable of wonder.

When time briefly forgets to hurry

I remember that feeling of being completely absorbed in the present.

There was no yesterday demanding an explanation and no tomorrow asking for an answer. For a brief while, the relentless machinery of life seemed to pause.

I was not thinking about success or failure.

Not about money.

Not about age.

Not about what others thought of me.

I was simply there.

And strangely, that was enough.

Perhaps this is what being alive truly means—not possessing everything we desire, but being sufficiently present to recognise what we already possess.

We spend so much of our lives preparing for life that we sometimes forget to live it.

We work for a better tomorrow.

We save for a comfortable future.

We worry about examinations, careers, mortgages, responsibilities, reputations and retirement.

Then one day we look back and discover that the future we were preparing for has quietly become the past.

Life, meanwhile, was happening in the margins.

The small miracles

Perhaps our most alive moments are not spectacular because they do not need to be.

A mother watching her sleeping child.

Two old friends laughing about something that happened forty years ago.

A couple walking together without saying a word.

A teacher seeing confidence appear in the eyes of a hesitant student.

A writer discovering the right sentence after struggling with a page for an hour.

A traveller standing before a mountain and feeling suddenly insignificant—and strangely connected to everything.

These moments possess no measurable value.

They cannot be deposited in a bank.

They cannot be displayed in a trophy cabinet.

Yet they become our private wealth.

And unlike money, they often appreciate with age.

Perhaps being alive is a matter of attention

We are surrounded by wonders so familiar that we have stopped noticing them.

The morning sun does not demand applause.

Rain does not ask whether we have time to watch it.

Flowers bloom without consulting calendars.

Children grow while we are busy making plans for them.

Parents age while we are occupied with our own lives.

Friends disappear gradually into different cities, different responsibilities and different worlds.

And one day, we realise that what we considered ordinary was actually extraordinary.

The greatest tragedy may not be that life is short.

It may be that we are frequently absent while living it.

Our bodies are in the room, but our minds are elsewhere.

Our children are speaking, but we are checking our phones.

A friend is sharing a story, but we are composing our reply.

The sunset is unfolding, but we are rushing home to watch it on a screen.

Perhaps the secret is not to find more extraordinary moments.

Perhaps it is to become more attentive to the ordinary ones.

The moment that remains

If someone asked me today, “What was the one moment in your life that made you feel truly alive?”, I might struggle to give a single answer.

Because perhaps there was never just one.

There were dozens.

Maybe hundreds.

Scattered like little lamps along the road.

Some belonged to youth. Some to love. Some to teaching. Some to family. Some to solitude. Some arrived through music, books, travel or simple conversation.

And some came disguised as difficulties.

There were moments when life hurt deeply, yet something within me became strangely awake. Pain stripped away the unnecessary and revealed what mattered.

That, too, is being alive.

To laugh until your stomach hurts.

To cry because something mattered.

To love despite knowing love can wound.

To forgive when resentment would be easier.

To stand again after falling.

To look at an uncertain future and walk towards it anyway.

Perhaps feeling truly alive is not about happiness alone.

It is about feeling.

Feeling deeply enough that the world leaves a mark upon you.

And then there is now

Perhaps the most beautiful realisation is this:

The moment that makes us feel truly alive does not necessarily belong to the past.

It could be this moment.

This breath.

This page.

This quiet night.

This conversation.

This opportunity to begin again.

We keep searching for the grand moment when life will finally reveal its meaning.

But perhaps life has been whispering all along:

Look around.

You are already here.

And sometimes, that is the miracle.

So, what was your moment?

Was it standing beneath a particular sky?

Holding someone’s hand?

Hearing your child’s first cry?

Achieving something you once thought impossible?

Surviving something you thought would break you?

Or perhaps it was a completely ordinary morning when, for no particular reason, you suddenly felt grateful to be alive.

Whatever it was, hold it gently.

Memory is a strange kind of time machine. It cannot return us to the moment, but it can return the moment to us.

And perhaps that is why certain memories never grow old.

They continue to breathe inside us.

They remind us that, for at least one beautiful instant, we were not merely passing through life.

We were completely, gloriously, wonderfully alive.

Sometimes the heart keeps what time cannot save,
A smile, a touch, a moment brave.
Years may vanish, seasons depart,
But the moments we truly lived keep breathing in the heart.

Friday, October 2, 2026

If the Genie Granted Me One Wish…

The genie grants you a wish. What is it?

If the Genie Granted Me One Wish…

One ordinary morning, while the kettle is boiling and the world is busy pretending to have everything under control, a genie appears.

Not from a television commercial. Not from a WhatsApp forward. A real genie.

He adjusts his turban, clears his throat and says, rather grandly:

“You have one wish. Ask, and it shall be granted.”

For a moment, I would probably forget every sensible thing I have ever believed.

One wish!

Should I ask for wealth? Health? A house overlooking the sea? A never-ending supply of books? Perhaps a Royal Enfield that never needs servicing?

The possibilities are dangerous.

But after the excitement settles, I think I know what I would ask for.

I would ask for peace.

Not merely peace in the world, although that would certainly be welcome. I would ask for the quieter, rarer kind—the peace that resides within a human being.

The peace of not constantly comparing one’s life with another’s.

The peace of knowing that enough is enough.

The peace of forgiving those who hurt us and, perhaps more importantly, forgiving ourselves for the mistakes we cannot undo.

We spend an astonishing portion of our lives chasing things that promise happiness. We chase money, recognition, possessions, promotions, followers and approval. We renovate houses while neglecting the rooms within ourselves.

And then, one day, we discover that the treasure we were searching for was not buried somewhere outside us.

It was buried beneath our own restlessness.

If the genie offered me youth, I would hesitate. Youth is beautiful, but it comes with impatience. If he offered me immense wealth, I might ask whether it came with immense responsibility. If he offered me fame, I would probably remember that fame is a strange visitor—it arrives loudly and leaves without saying goodbye.

But peace?

Yes.

Give me enough peace to sit quietly without feeling guilty about doing nothing.

Give me enough wisdom to understand that not every argument deserves an answer.

Give me enough humility to say I was wrong.

Give me enough courage to say I love you while there is still time.

Give me enough gratitude to notice the small miracles that usually escape our attention—the morning light, a familiar voice, a child’s laughter, a cup of tea, an old song, a good book, a friend’s unexpected message.

And perhaps I would add one tiny clause to my wish.

Let the people I love have peace too.

Because happiness becomes strangely incomplete when it is enjoyed alone.

The genie might look at me suspiciously.

“That’s your one wish?”

“Yes.”

“No gold?”

“No.”

“No palace?”

“No.”

“No eternal youth?”

“Certainly not.”

He might shake his head. “You humans are becoming very philosophical.”

And I would smile.

“Perhaps we become philosophical only after discovering that everything else has an expiry date.”

The genie might then disappear in a puff of smoke, leaving behind neither diamonds nor treasure.

Only silence.

And perhaps that would be the real magic.

For the older I become, the more I suspect that a good life is not one in which we possess everything we once desired. It is one in which we no longer need everything we once desired.

Maybe the greatest wish is not:

“Give me more.”

Maybe it is:

“Teach me to need less, love more and live fully with what I already have.”

And if that sounds like a small wish, perhaps we have forgotten how much can fit inside something small.

Four lines to take home

If a genie grants one wish today,
Don’t ask for treasures that fade away.
Ask for a heart that can quietly see—
That enough, sometimes, is the richest of thee.

Thursday, October 1, 2026

BOOK REVIEW: DEBTS OF SILENCEDEBTS OF SILENCEby Prashant Kumar Lal

BOOK REVIEW: DEBTS OF SILENCE

DEBTS OF SILENCE
by Prashant Kumar Lal

Available on All the Amazon Platforms Worldwide in Paperback and digital format

A literary crime novel — Mumbai · Dubai · London
A murder mystery, a love story, and a reckoning with inherited grief, told across three cities and fifteen years
There is a particular kind of crime novel that uses its plot as scaffolding for something considerably more personal, and Debts of Silence belongs unmistakably to that tradition. On its surface, this is the story of Divya Rao, a forensic accountant and former CBI officer, drawn into investigating the death of textile-and-fintech tycoon Rajan Malhotra the night before he was to announce a merger that would launder a network of stolen Indian antiquities through a Dubai free port and a London auction house. Underneath that surface, though, runs a quieter, more aching plot: a daughter’s fifteen-year search for the truth about her own father’s death, and her slow, reluctant discovery that the two cases were never separate at all.

Structure and Pacing

The novel is organised in three parts — Mumbai, Dubai, London — and this geographic architecture does real narrative work rather than functioning as mere travelogue. Part One (“The Study”) is the book’s strongest sustained stretch: patient, atmospheric, confident enough to let scenes breathe.

Lal lingers over small physical details — a whisky glass moved half an inch from where it started, the particular over-sweetness of incense laid on to cover something rather than honour it — and trusts the reader to understand that in a forensic mystery, the smallest material facts are the plot. The chapter in which Divya first examines Rajan Malhotra’s study is a genuine set piece, doing the work of establishing both procedure and grief in the same unhurried paragraphs.
Part Two (“The Free Zone”) shifts registers effectively, trading Mumbai’s humid, incense-thick interiors for Dubai’s glass-and-desert glare, and it’s here that the novel’s romantic plot — between Divya and Arjun Malhotra, the murdered man’s estranged nephew and unlikely heir — takes on real weight rather than functioning as a subplot bolted onto the mystery. The rooftop scene in particular earns its emotional turn; it’s preceded by enough genuine conversation, enough shared risk, that the shift from professional alliance to something more feels inevitable rather than contractual.
Part Three (“The Saleroom”) carries the heaviest narrative burden — the reveal of the true architect behind fifteen years of buried deaths, an Interpol notice engineered to remove Arjun from the board before the climax, a public reckoning on an auction floor — and largely succeeds, though it is worth noting for prospective readers that the emotional and sensory density Lal establishes so carefully in Parts One and Two occasionally outpaces the final movement’s ability to match it scene for scene.

The revelation that the “man who was never in the room” is Vinod Ranade — the family’s own trusted lawyer, present at every crisis by invitation and therefore never once suspected — is a genuinely well-seeded twist; the clue, planted in Divya’s father’s audit (“find who is never in the room, and you will find who I am truly afraid of”), rewards attentive readers without feeling like a cheat. What works less cleanly is the compression of consequence: Kapadia’s plea, Al-Fahim’s cooperation agreement, Rathod’s disappearance, and Meera’s quiet reinvention all arrive in a relatively tight sequence, and a reader who has spent three hundred-odd pages with these characters may reasonably want more room to sit with each reckoning individually rather than receiving them in summary.

Character and Voice

Divya Rao is the novel’s clear achievement. Lal resists the temptation to make her either invulnerable or decorative; her competence is real and hard-won, but so is her fear, and the novel is at its best when it lets her be frightened without becoming fragile — the scooter brake-line sequence and the sealed-container chapters both understand that suspense works better through a protagonist’s disciplined management of terror than through its absence. Arjun is a more conventional romantic figure — the prodigal heir, the man running from a family he loves and distrusts in equal measure — but his professional identity as an art restorer is put to real use rather than treated as colour; his ability to read a bronze’s repair scar or a crate’s strapping tension becomes, cleverly, a detective skill in its own right.

The supporting cast is where the novel’s moral seriousness shows most clearly. Nilofer Khan, the longtime executive assistant who has kept the family’s secrets for twenty-six years, is given genuine interiority rather than serving as a mere plot device for exposition — her late confession that she mistook a powerful man’s trust for her own virtue is one of the book’s sharper psychological observations, and one that gives the novel’s title its real charge: hers is a debt paid out in decades of silence, not currency.

Kapadia is drawn with real sympathy as a coward rather than a villain, which is a harder and more interesting choice than the alternative.

Prose and Theme

Lal’s prose favours long, accumulating sentences — clauses stacked on clauses, arriving at their point only after several qualifying turns — which suits a novel about the slow excavation of buried truth, though it occasionally risks over-explaining an emotion the scene has already earned through action or dialogue. The novel’s recurring image — ash, incense, the residue left behind once something has been burned away or covered over — is deployed with genuine discipline; it never curdles into overreach. And the title itself is honestly earned rather than merely decorative: nearly every character in this novel is, in some fashion, paying down a debt incurred by years of silence — Nilofer’s, Kapadia’s, Ranade’s most of all, and even Divya’s own fifteen-year silence about her father’s death, which she finally, at real cost, breaks.

Thematically, the novel’s real subject is complicity — the thousand small, individually defensible compromises (a coroner reconsidering his notes, a lawyer redrafting a will, an analyst deciding to wait until morning) that collectively build the machinery capable of burying a murder for fifteen years. This is a more interesting argument than most commercial thrillers attempt, and Lal is at his best when he lets the novel sit with it rather than resolving it too neatly.

Verdict

Debts of Silence is a confident, atmospheric debut into literary crime fiction — strongest in its opening movement, warmest in its handling of Divya and Arjun’s relationship, and most ambitious in its refusal to let its villain be a simple monster rather than a man built slowly, over thirty years, out of small surrenders. Readers who enjoy a mystery that takes its time, trusts its setting, and cares as much about grief as about plot mechanics will find a great deal to admire here.

“A mystery that takes its time, trusts its setting, and cares as much about grief as about plot mechanics.”

Who Should Read This Book

Debts of Silence is best suited to readers who enjoy literary crime fiction that favours atmosphere and moral complexity over pure procedural pace — readers of authors such as Vikram Chandra, Kate Morton, or Abir Mukherjee will find familiar pleasures here. More specifically, the novel should appeal to:

  • Fans of slow-burn detective fiction who prefer a mystery built on patient observation and character study rather than rapid-fire action.
  • Readers drawn to international, multi-city thrillers that use setting — Mumbai’s old wealth, Dubai’s free-zone commerce, London’s auction world — as more than backdrop.
  • Readers of family-saga fiction who enjoy inheritance plots, generational secrets, and the slow unravelling of a trusted household.
  • Romance-adjacent crime readers who want a genuine, earned relationship arc alongside the investigation rather than a perfunctory subplot.
  • Anyone interested in the antiquities trade, cultural repatriation, or the ethics of the art market, which the novel treats with real seriousness rather than as exotic colour.
  • Readers who appreciated the moral ambiguity of a novel like A Suitable Boy or the quiet menace of a Ruth Rendell mystery will find a kindred sensibility in Lal’s handling of complicity and cowardice.
  • Content note: the novel includes scenes of violence, one sustained sequence of peril, and tasteful but clearly adult romantic content; it is intended for adult readers rather than a young-adult audience.
  • About the Author
    Prashant Kumar Lal is an educator, writer and former school principal whose professional life has been shaped by a sustained interest in human behaviour, institutions and the often-unspoken forces that influence the choices people make.
  • With several decades devoted to education and school leadership, he has worked extensively with students, teachers, parents and educational institutions, moving beyond the classroom into academic administration, teacher development, assessment and educational consultancy. Alongside this professional journey, writing has remained a quieter and more personal pursuit — a way of examining memory, relationships, values, human frailty, and the questions that persist beneath ordinary life.
    As an author, Lal has written across several genres, including reflective prose, educational literature, childhood memoir and fiction, marked throughout by an interest in the intersection of the visible and the concealed — what people say, what they withhold, and what eventually reveals itself despite their efforts to keep it hidden.
  • Debts of Silence marks his deliberate movement into literary crime fiction. Set across Mumbai, Dubai and London, the novel brings together forensic accountancy, financial concealment, antiquities trafficking, family inheritance and an unresolved death. At its centre is Divya Rao, a forensic accountant whose professional instinct for discrepancies gradually becomes a deeply personal search for truth.
    For Lal, the investigation is not merely a pursuit of a murderer. It is an examination of how wrongdoing survives through systems — through transactions, omissions, compromised loyalties and convenient silences. Prashant Kumar Lal continues to write with the conviction that a story should entertain the reader, but should also leave behind a question worth carrying beyond the final page.

Genre: Literary Crime Fiction / Mystery-Thriller
Setting: Mumbai · Dubai · London
Recommended for: Adult readers of literary and international crime fiction
Reviewed for general readership and trade consideration

Side Hustles: Turning Spare Time into Something Worthwhile


What are your favorite side-hustle ideas?

Side Hustles: Turning Spare Time into Something Worthwhile

There was a time when a person had a job, earned a salary, returned home and waited patiently for the next payday. Today, the world of work has become considerably more inventive. One income stream is no longer the only stream worth exploring.

Enter the side hustle — that little venture conducted beside your principal occupation, often beginning at a kitchen table, in a spare room or with nothing more than a laptop and an idea.

I rather like the expression side hustle. It sounds energetic, slightly mischievous and wonderfully modern. After all, why should all the hustle belong to the main job?

For me, the most attractive side hustles are not necessarily those promising instant wealth. They are those that combine skill, curiosity, independence and purpose.

1. Writing: Turn Words into Wings

Writing is perhaps one of the most accessible side hustles today.

Blogs, articles, newsletters, e-books, self-publishing, editing and copywriting can all become modest sources of income. More importantly, writing allows experience to acquire a second life.

A retired teacher can write about education. A banker can write about personal finance. A chef can share recipes. A traveller can chronicle journeys. A grandparent can preserve memories for generations yet unborn.

Words cost little to produce, but sometimes they can travel further than their author ever will.

And there is a delightful pun here: when you write for a living, you may discover that your words finally start paying their own way.

2. Online Teaching and Tutoring

Knowledge is one commodity that does not diminish when shared.

Tutoring schoolchildren, teaching languages, conducting examination preparation classes or offering professional training can become a rewarding side venture.

The beauty of teaching online is that geography has lost much of its authority. A teacher in one city can instruct a learner hundreds or even thousands of kilometres away.

It is a particularly meaningful side hustle because you are not merely selling information; you are helping someone understand something that once seemed difficult.

And perhaps that is the finest form of compound interest: knowledge that keeps earning interest in another person’s life.

3. Consulting: Sell Experience, Not Just Hours

Many people underestimate the value of what they already know.

A retired professional may possess decades of experience in management, education, accounting, engineering, human resources, marketing or administration.

Consultancy turns that accumulated experience into a service.

You do not necessarily need a grand office, an impressive reception desk or a wall covered with certificates. Sometimes all you need is credibility, clarity and the ability to solve a problem.

Experience, after all, is one of the few things we collect without realising its value until somebody needs it.

4. Self-Publishing

The traditional publishing world once possessed formidable gates. Today, many of those gates have become doors.

Authors can publish books in paperback, hardcover and digital formats through online platforms. A specialist book may find a small but dedicated readership; a memoir may reach someone who needs its story; a practical guide may help a student or professional.

Self-publishing is not merely about making money. It is about making something that did not exist before.

There is something profoundly satisfying about seeing an idea travel from mind to manuscript to marketplace.

The royalties may begin as a trickle. But even a trickle has somewhere to go if you keep writing.

5. Digital Products

A person can create once and sell many times.

Templates, worksheets, planners, educational resources, study guides, e-books, presentations, photography collections and specialised digital materials can become useful products.

The important word is useful.

The internet is already crowded with things nobody needs. A successful digital product should solve a genuine problem, save time or make somebody’s life easier.

In the digital economy, convenience can be currency.

6. Photography, Art and Creative Work

If you have an artistic inclination, your camera, brush, design software or even smartphone can become a small business tool.

Photographs, illustrations, greeting cards, digital artwork and design services can all find buyers.

Creativity does not always need a boardroom. Sometimes it simply needs a person willing to create consistently.

The artist’s side hustle can therefore become a beautiful paradox: you begin by creating for pleasure and discover that pleasure can sometimes create profit.

7. Content Creation

YouTube channels, podcasts, blogs, newsletters and social-media pages have created entirely new forms of work.

But content creation is not simply about posting frequently. It is about having something worth saying.

A person with knowledge, humour, experience or a distinctive perspective can gradually build an audience.

The key word is gradually.

The internet encourages instant gratification, but meaningful audiences are usually built one reader, viewer or listener at a time.

8. Reselling and Small Online Businesses

Some people have a natural eye for products, bargains and opportunities.

Reselling books, vintage objects, handicrafts, clothing, collectibles or carefully selected products can become a modest business.

But this is where arithmetic must accompany enthusiasm.

Revenue is not profit. A ₹1,000 sale does not mean ₹1,000 earned.

Purchase cost, packaging, delivery, platform charges, taxes, returns and your own time all matter.

A side hustle without bookkeeping can quickly become a side headache.

9. Turning a Hobby into an Income

Perhaps the most enjoyable side hustle is hidden inside something you already love.

Gardening can become plant sales. Baking can become custom orders. Music can become lessons. Cycling can become guided rides. Crafting can become handmade products. Cooking can become workshops.

The trick is not to monetise every hobby.

Some things should remain sacredly uncommercial.

But if a hobby naturally solves a problem for somebody else, there may be a business quietly waiting inside it.

The Side Hustle Should Not Become the Main Hassle

There is one caution worth remembering.

A side hustle should supplement life, not consume it.

If your additional income destroys your sleep, relationships, health or peace of mind, you may have created a second job rather than a useful side venture.

Start small.

Test the idea.

Understand the demand.

Keep proper records.

Do not invest heavily before you know whether people actually want what you are offering.

And above all, do not believe every online promise of “Earn ₹1 lakh a day from your mobile!”

If earning money were that effortless, nobody would be selling courses explaining how to earn it.

The Side Hustle of a Meaningful Life

Perhaps the finest side hustle is not always financial.

Reading can enrich the mind. Writing can preserve memories. Teaching can multiply knowledge. Volunteering can enlarge compassion. Learning something new can keep curiosity alive.

Money matters, certainly. But so does meaning.

A side hustle can therefore become more than a second source of income. It can become a second chapter — especially for someone who has retired from a formal career but has not retired from curiosity.

The real question is not merely:

“What can I do to earn more?”

It may be:

“What can I do with the abilities, experience and time I still possess?”

That question opens considerably more doors.

And perhaps that is the real beauty of a side hustle. It reminds us that life need not have only one profession, one identity or one destination.

Sometimes, the road beside the main road leads somewhere unexpectedly wonderful.

Four Lines to Take Away

Hustle with purpose, but don’t let purpose rush;
Turn your small spark into a steady brush.
Let passion earn, let wisdom grow —
For the best side hustle is the life you sow.

Tuesday, September 29, 2026

The Relationship That Became a Mirror

Which relationship has taught you the most about yourself?

The Relationship That Became a Mirror

What another person can teach us about the person we are becoming

Some relationships enter our lives quietly. Others arrive like a monsoon—sudden, overwhelming and impossible to ignore. But the relationships that teach us the most are not always the easiest ones. Sometimes, they are the relationships that make us question ourselves, confront our imperfections and discover strengths we did not know we possessed.

If I were asked which relationship has taught me the most about myself, I would not name a relationship merely because it brought happiness. I would choose the one that became a mirror.

For, a relationship is rarely just about another person. It is also an encounter with ourselves.

The mirror we seldom choose to look into

We often imagine that we know ourselves.

We know what we like, what we dislike, what we believe, what we will tolerate and what we will never accept. Yet, put us in a meaningful relationship and those certainties begin to shift.

Someone’s silence may reveal our impatience.

Someone’s criticism may expose our insecurity.

Someone’s affection may reveal how uncomfortable we are with vulnerability.

And someone’s absence may teach us the value of a presence we once took for granted.

Relationships have a remarkable way of uncovering the person behind the person we think we are.

I discovered that I was not always as patient as I imagined. I learnt that I sometimes wanted to be understood before making the effort to understand. I discovered that being right could occasionally matter more to me than being kind.

These are uncomfortable discoveries.

But they are valuable ones.

Love teaches a different kind of mathematics

There is a strange arithmetic in relationships.

We give, yet receive.

We lose, yet gain.

We compromise, yet sometimes discover ourselves.

We speak less, but understand more.

The deepest relationships teach us that love cannot be measured simply by the number of years spent together or the number of beautiful memories accumulated.

It is measured in the ordinary moments.

A cup of tea left beside someone who is tired.

A question asked when the other person is unusually quiet.

A hand placed gently on a shoulder.

An argument that ends not with victory, but with reconciliation.

A decision to remain when walking away would have been easier.

These seemingly insignificant gestures gradually become the grammar of companionship.

I learnt that I am still a work in progress

Perhaps the greatest lesson a meaningful relationship can teach us is that we are never finished.

Age may bring experience, but it does not necessarily bring wisdom.

We continue to make mistakes.

We continue to misunderstand.

We continue to carry old fears into new situations.

We continue to learn the difficult difference between expectation and acceptance.

A relationship taught me that maturity is not the absence of mistakes. It is the willingness to recognise them without constructing elaborate excuses.

It is being able to say:

I was wrong.

I am sorry.

I could have done better.

Those are small sentences, but they require considerable courage.

The art of listening

One of the most profound lessons relationships teach us is the difference between hearing and listening.

Hearing requires ears.

Listening requires attention.

There were times when I listened merely to prepare my response. I wanted to explain, defend, correct or solve.

But not every conversation requires a solution.

Sometimes a person simply wants to be heard.

Sometimes what appears to be anger is actually hurt.

Sometimes what appears to be indifference is exhaustion.

Sometimes a question is not asking for an answer at all; it is asking for reassurance.

I learnt, slowly, that understanding another person begins when the desire to win an argument ends.

What love revealed about strength

I once thought strength meant remaining unshaken.

I now think otherwise.

Strength can mean admitting that something hurts.

It can mean asking for forgiveness.

It can mean changing an opinion.

It can mean allowing another person to see the vulnerable parts of us that we usually conceal from the world.

Real strength does not always stand erect.

Sometimes it sits quietly beside someone and says, I am here.

That simple presence can be more powerful than a thousand explanations.

And what it taught me about freedom

A healthy relationship does not imprison individuality.

It gives individuality somewhere safe to exist.

We are not required to become identical to the people we love. We can have different interests, different opinions, different rhythms and even different ways of seeing the world.

The beauty lies in remaining two individuals while creating something larger than either person alone.

Perhaps that is what companionship really means—not possessing another human being, but accompanying them.

There is a profound difference.

Possession says, You belong to me.

Companionship says, I will walk beside you.

The relationship continues to teach

Some relationships teach us through joy.

Some through disagreement.

Some through sacrifice.

Some through loss.

And some continue teaching us long after the particular moment that prompted the lesson has passed.

The person may never know how much they changed us.

They may never realise that a conversation from years ago altered the way we see life.

They may never know that their kindness became a memory we carried through difficult days.

That is the mysterious influence human beings have upon one another.

We leave traces.

A sentence.

A gesture.

A lesson.

A scar.

A smile.

A memory.

And sometimes, without intending to, we become part of another person’s understanding of themselves.

Perhaps that is the greatest lesson of all

When I look back, I realise that the relationship that taught me the most about myself did not simply tell me who I was.

It showed me who I could become.

More patient.

More forgiving.

Less certain of my own correctness.

More willing to listen.

More conscious of the fragility of human emotions.

And perhaps, above everything else, more grateful.

Because relationships are not merely chapters in our lives.

They are classrooms.

Some lessons are easy.

Some are painful.

Some take decades to understand.

But the finest relationships leave us with a strange and beautiful realisation:

We thought we were learning about another person.

All along, we were learning about ourselves.

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