What’s the most annoying trope in books or movies?

The Trope That Makes Me Want to Throw the Book Across the Room

There are many things I forgive in books and films.

I can forgive an impossible plot. I can forgive a hero who survives a fall from the twentieth floor with nothing more than a slightly untidy hairstyle. I can even forgive the villain explaining his entire evil plan instead of simply getting on with it.

But there is one trope that makes me want to close the book, switch off the television and stare accusingly at the ceiling.

The utterly unnecessary misunderstanding.

You know the one.

Two people who supposedly love each other are standing three feet apart. One hears half a sentence, sees something completely innocent, jumps to the wildest possible conclusion and storms away.

The other person runs after them.

“Wait! It isn’t what you think!”

But, naturally, they don’t wait.

Because if they did, the story would be over in approximately four minutes.

Instead, they spend the next hundred pages—or forty-five minutes of screen time—avoiding each other, suffering in silence and behaving like two highly intelligent people who have suddenly forgotten the existence of language.

And I sit there thinking:

“For heaven’s sake, just ask!”

The beauty of modern technology has made this trope even more ridiculous. In the old days, perhaps we could blame the absence of telephones. Today, characters have smartphones, video calls, instant messaging and location sharing.

Yet somehow, nobody can send a simple message:

“What actually happened?”

No.

Instead, they stare dramatically at their phones and refuse to answer.

Or they type a message, delete it, type another, delete that one too, and finally throw the phone on the bed as though it has personally betrayed them.

I sometimes wonder whether writers secretly believe that communication is the enemy of good storytelling.

Of course, misunderstandings are part of life. We mishear things. We make assumptions. We see situations without knowing the whole story. Human beings are wonderfully imperfect creatures.

But there is a difference between a believable misunderstanding and a misunderstanding that requires every character in the story to temporarily lose their intelligence.

The worst examples usually follow a predictable formula.

Someone walks into a room.

They see their beloved embracing another person.

They immediately assume betrayal.

They leave.

The beloved turns around and says, “Oh, you’re back! This is my brother.”

And suddenly the audience is expected to spend the next hour waiting for the inevitable reconciliation.

My dear writer, the audience figured it out before the door even opened.

Another favourite is the overheard conversation.

Character A is explaining something perfectly innocent.

Character B arrives at precisely the wrong moment and hears only the sentence:

“I never loved her.”

Character B gasps.

Character A continues:

“…because she is my sister.”

But Character B has already disappeared into the rain.

Cue thunder.

Cue melancholy music.

Cue the hero running through several streets without a coat.

Why?

Because apparently nobody in this universe has discovered the revolutionary concept of context.

Then there is the secret that everybody knows except the person who matters.

Five characters are aware that the hero is actually the rightful heir to a kingdom.

The audience knows.

The villain knows.

The gardener knows.

The horse probably knows.

But somehow the hero remains completely unaware for twenty-seven chapters.

And nobody thinks it might be useful to tell him.

Perhaps the most irritating variation is the character who refuses to explain something because, “I can’t tell you.”

“Why?”

“I just can’t.”

“Is it dangerous?”

“Yes.”

“Is someone trying to kill me?”

“Yes.”

“Then perhaps you should tell me?”

“I can’t.”

At this point, I feel like entering the scene personally.

“Give me five minutes. I’ll explain everything.”

And then there is the classic romantic trope in which two people clearly adore each other but spend the entire story insisting that they don’t.

Everyone else can see it.

Their friends can see it.

Their families can see it.

The audience can see it.

The waiter serving their coffee can see it.

Even the dog can see it.

But the two protagonists remain emotionally blind.

“I don’t like him.”

“You talk about him all the time.”

“I do not.”

“You’ve mentioned him seventeen times today.”

“I was merely making an observation.”

“Yes. You observed him for three hours.”

Sometimes I suspect that if these characters simply sat down for a cup of tea and had one honest conversation, an entire trilogy would disappear.

And yet, despite my irritation, I have to admit something.

These tropes survive because they work.

Stories need obstacles.

Love needs complications.

Heroes need problems.

Villains need secrets.

And readers need reasons to keep turning pages.

The real problem isn’t the trope itself.

It is lazy storytelling.

A well-written misunderstanding can reveal character, expose insecurity, deepen a relationship or create genuine emotional tension. A poorly written one simply makes everyone look foolish.

Perhaps that is why the most annoying trope is not actually the misunderstanding.

It is the moment when the writer assumes the reader is stupid.

Readers are remarkably patient. We will follow authors into dystopian futures, haunted houses, magical kingdoms, complicated family histories and even alternate universes.

But we expect one thing in return:

Give us characters who behave like human beings.

Let them make mistakes, certainly.

Let them misunderstand.

Let them fall in love with the wrong person, trust the wrong person and occasionally make spectacularly bad decisions.

But please—at least occasionally—let them talk to each other.

Because sometimes the greatest plot twist in a book or film would be wonderfully simple:

The character asks a question.

The other character tells the truth.

They listen.

They understand.

And nobody runs dramatically into the rain.

Now that would be revolutionary.

If you could relive one year of your life, which one would it be?

1982: The Year I Would Happily Get Into Trouble Again

If I could relive one year of my life, this would be it!

If I were given a time machine and told, “Choose exactly one year of your life. You can go back and live it all over again,” I would not need even five seconds to think.

1982.

Take me there.

No questions. No conditions. No return ticket.

Just give me the clothes, hair, friends, songs, bicycles, bus rides, silly romances and completely unnecessary adventures of 1982—and I promise I will be happier than I have any right to be.

Why 1982?

Because I was young enough to believe that almost every day could become an adventure and foolish enough to actually turn ordinary days into adventures.

There was no WhatsApp.

No Instagram.

No Facebook.

No Google Maps telling us where we were.

And, most importantly, no one could track us!

If a friend disappeared for six hours, nobody sent a message saying, “Where are you?”

They simply assumed we were somewhere doing something stupid.

And they were usually right.

We had bicycles instead of fitness trackers, postcards instead of instant messages and landline telephones that seemed to have been designed specifically to prevent romance.

Imagine trying to speak privately to someone you secretly liked while the entire family was sitting within three feet of the telephone.

You would begin with:

“Hello… is she there?”

And then, suddenly, a suspicious voice from the next room:

“Who is calling?”

Romance required courage in those days.

And excellent acting skills.

A smile across a crowded room could occupy your thoughts for an entire week.

A handwritten letter could be read ten times before being carefully folded and hidden inside a book.

And if someone actually said, “I like you,” it was practically a national emergency.

I would happily relive all of that.

I would also relive the friendships.

Ah, those friendships!

We did not need reservations, expensive restaurants or elaborate plans. Someone would simply appear outside the house and shout:

“Come on!”

That was the entire invitation.

Where were we going?

Nobody knew.

How long would we be gone?

Nobody knew.

What would we do?

We would decide after leaving.

And somehow, those were often the best days.

We travelled without itineraries. We boarded buses and trains with the confidence of people who believed that every destination would somehow work itself out.

A journey itself was entertainment.

There were jokes, arguments, songs, stolen glances, roadside tea, ridiculous photographs and endless discussions about absolutely nothing.

Sometimes we went somewhere simply because somebody said:

“Why don’t we go there?”

That was enough.

Today we have GPS, travel apps, online reviews and carefully planned itineraries.

In 1982, we had optimism and poor judgement.

What more did we need?

And then there were the evenings.

Music played on cassettes. Songs had to be rewound with a pencil when the tape player misbehaved. A favourite song was not something you streamed—it was something you waited for.

There was magic in that waiting.

Perhaps that is what we have lost.

Today, almost everything arrives instantly.

In 1982, anticipation was part of the pleasure.

You waited for a letter.

You waited for a telephone call.

You waited for your favourite song.

You waited to see someone you liked.

And sometimes, you waited all day just to discover that they weren’t coming.

And somehow, even disappointment had its charm.

If I could relive 1982, I would also like to revisit the wonderfully foolish decisions of youth.

I would probably say things I shouldn’t.

Go places without informing anyone.

Stay out longer than permitted.

Laugh at completely inappropriate moments.

Spend money I should have saved.

Fall in love with someone I had no business falling in love with.

And then, naturally, fall out of love approximately three weeks later.

I would make mistakes again.

Gladly.

Because some mistakes are simply memories wearing funny clothes.

I would meet my friends again—not as the people we eventually became, but as the carefree youngsters we were.

We would laugh at jokes that make no sense today.

We would tease one another about old romances.

We would exaggerate our adventures.

Each person would remember the same event differently, and we would spend half the evening arguing about what actually happened.

And, naturally, nobody would admit that their memory was wrong.

That is another beautiful thing about old friendships.

Facts become negotiable.

If I could relive 1982, I wouldn’t try to make it perfect.

I would make it gloriously imperfect.

I would miss buses.

Take wrong turns.

Get caught in the rain.

Eat cheap food at roadside stalls.

Travel without a plan.

Dance badly.

Sing loudly.

Laugh until my stomach hurt.

Fall hopelessly in love.

Get my heart mildly broken.

And then recover by going out with my friends the very next evening.

I would take more photographs, but I wouldn’t spend the whole day photographing everything.

I would actually live the moments.

I would watch sunsets without trying to capture them.

I would sit with friends without looking at a screen.

I would listen to someone tell the same story for the tenth time and laugh as though it were the first.

And I would remember that youth is not really about age.

It is about the ability to find happiness in things that cost almost nothing.

A bicycle ride.

A train journey.

A cup of tea.

A stupid joke.

A beautiful song.

A friend’s company.

A secret romance.

A sudden trip.

A night spent talking about the future as though we had already conquered it.

That is why I would choose 1982.

Not because it was the most important year of my life.

Not because I accomplished something extraordinary.

Quite the opposite.

It was precious because life did not always need to be extraordinary.

We were simply young.

We laughed easily.

We travelled whenever we could.

We made friends.

We flirted.

We dreamed.

We got into trouble.

And then we did it all again.

If the time machine ever arrives at my doorstep, I know exactly what I will tell the person operating it.

“Take me to 1982.”

And if they ask,

“What would you like to change?”

I will smile and say:

“Absolutely nothing.”

Then I will probably add:

“But can you leave me there a little longer this time?”

What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done when no one was watching?

Courage in the Quiet: The Bravest Things We Do When Nobody Is Watching

We often imagine bravery as something dramatic: standing before a crowd, facing danger, fighting a battle, or making a decision that changes the course of our lives. We associate courage with applause, recognition and stories that are retold for years.

But some of the bravest things we ever do happen in complete silence.

There is no audience. No photograph. No certificate. No one to say, “Well done.” There is simply a person standing alone with a difficult choice and deciding, nevertheless, to do what feels right.

For me, the bravest acts have not necessarily been the moments when I faced an obvious danger. They have been the quieter moments when I had to confront myself.

There is a particular kind of courage in beginning again when life has not turned out as you expected. To wake up after disappointment, uncertainty or failure and tell yourself, “I will try once more,” requires a strength that nobody else may ever see.

Sometimes bravery is walking away from something that no longer gives you peace, even when staying would be easier.

Sometimes it is admitting that you were wrong.

Sometimes it is saying no when everyone expects you to say yes.

And sometimes, perhaps most importantly, it is choosing not to become bitter after life has given you reasons to be.

I have come to believe that one of the bravest things a person can do is remain kind when circumstances have made cynicism tempting. It takes little courage to be kind when everything is going well. But when you have been misunderstood, disappointed or overlooked, kindness becomes a conscious choice.

There are also battles that nobody knows we are fighting.

A person may smile throughout the day while privately wrestling with fear. Someone may continue working while carrying the weight of uncertainty. Another may sit quietly at night, gathering enough strength to face another morning.

The world may never know what it took for that person simply to keep going.

And perhaps that is the purest form of courage: continuing without witnesses.

We are often taught to seek validation for our achievements. We want people to notice what we have accomplished, praise our sacrifices and acknowledge our struggles. Yet some of life’s most meaningful victories come without recognition.

Reading one more page when you feel like giving up.

Writing one more paragraph when you doubt your ability.

Apologising first.

Forgiving someone without receiving an apology.

Choosing hope when pessimism seems more reasonable.

Getting out of bed and beginning another day when yesterday has left you exhausted.

These acts may look ordinary from the outside. But the person who performs them knows their true cost.

Courage is not always the absence of fear. More often, it is the decision to move forward while fear is still sitting beside you.

Perhaps that is why I have stopped looking for bravery only in extraordinary moments. I now find it in ordinary people doing extraordinary things quietly: a parent sacrificing without complaint, a teacher continuing to inspire, a lonely person refusing to lose compassion, an ageing individual learning something new, or someone rebuilding a life without announcing that they are rebuilding it.

The bravest thing we do when nobody is watching may simply be choosing to remain ourselves.

To preserve our values when compromise would be easier.

To hold on to dignity when circumstances try to take it away.

To keep our hearts open after they have been hurt.

To believe that tomorrow might still contain something beautiful.

No applause accompanies such courage. No medal is awarded. Often, nobody even knows.

But perhaps courage was never meant to be performed for an audience.

The greatest bravery may be found in those private moments when we stand alone, look at the difficulties before us and whisper:

“I am afraid, but I will not surrender.”

And then, quietly, we take the next step.

Nobody watches.

Nobody applauds.

But somewhere deep within us, we know that we have won.

When Hope Was Born at Midnight: The Eternal Message of Shri Krishna Janmashtami

There is something profoundly beautiful about the story of Shri Krishna’s birth. He did not arrive amidst royal celebrations, the sound of trumpets or the splendour of a palace. He was born at midnight, behind prison walls, at a time when fear had overshadowed hope and tyranny appeared to have conquered righteousness.

And yet, that very midnight became the beginning of a new dawn.

Shri Krishna Janmashtami is celebrated to commemorate the divine birth of Lord Krishna, but its significance goes far beyond a religious festival. It is a celebration of hope, dharma, love, wisdom and the triumph of light over darkness.

The circumstances surrounding Krishna’s birth are themselves symbolic. Devaki and Vasudeva were imprisoned by Kamsa, a ruler consumed by fear and power. Kamsa had heard a prophecy that Devaki’s eighth child would bring about his downfall. In his attempt to defeat destiny, he imprisoned Devaki and Vasudeva and destroyed their children.

But destiny cannot be imprisoned.

At midnight, the eighth child was born.

The Bhagavata Purana beautifully describes Krishna as:

“देवकीसुतं देवं कंसचाणूरमर्दनम्।
देवकीपरमानन्दं कृष्णं वन्दे जगद्गुरुम्॥”

Devakī-sutaṁ devaṁ Kaṁsa-cāṇūra-mardanam,
Devakī-paramānandaṁ Kṛṣṇaṁ vande Jagad-gurum.

“I bow to Krishna, the son of Devaki, the destroyer of Kamsa and Chanura, the supreme joy of Devaki and the teacher of the world.”

The words ‘Jagadguru’ — the teacher of the world — capture the extraordinary journey of Krishna. The infant who was born in a prison would eventually become the divine guide who stood on the battlefield of Kurukshetra and transformed Arjuna’s confusion into clarity.

The Birth of Light in Darkness

The symbolism of Krishna’s birth is timeless.

Midnight represents darkness. The prison represents bondage. Kamsa represents fear, ego and tyranny. And Krishna represents the light of divine consciousness that emerges even when circumstances seem hopeless.

This is why Janmashtami speaks to everyone, regardless of age or circumstance.

Life occasionally takes us through our own metaphorical midnight. There are moments when uncertainty surrounds us, when our efforts seem futile and when the future appears hidden behind a wall of darkness.

Krishna’s birth reminds us that the darkest hour need not be the end of the story.

Sometimes, it is precisely in the darkness that a new light begins to shine.

“यदा यदा हि धर्मस्य…”

Perhaps no words associated with Krishna are more powerful than those from the Bhagavad Gita:

“यदा यदा हि धर्मस्य ग्लानिर्भवति भारत।
अभ्युत्थानमधर्मस्य तदात्मानं सृजाम्यहम्॥”

Yadā yadā hi dharmasya glānir bhavati Bhārata,
abhyutthānam adharmasya tadātmānaṁ sṛjāmy aham.

“Whenever righteousness declines and unrighteousness rises, I manifest Myself.”

Krishna continues:

“परित्राणाय साधूनां विनाशाय च दुष्कृताम्।
धर्मसंस्थापनार्थाय सम्भवामि युगे युगे॥”

Paritrāṇāya sādhūnāṁ vināśāya ca duṣkṛtām,
dharma-saṁsthāpanārthāya sambhavāmi yuge yuge.

“For the protection of the good, the destruction of evil and the establishment of dharma, I manifest Myself age after age.”

These verses give Janmashtami a significance far beyond the remembrance of a historical or divine event. They remind us that dharma is not merely a ritual or a religious obligation. It is the principle of righteousness that enables human beings and society to live with justice, compassion and integrity.

From Mathura to Vrindavan

Krishna’s story then takes us from the prison of Mathura to the pastoral beauty of Gokul and Vrindavan.

There, the divine child becomes the playful Kanha — stealing butter, teasing the Gopis, playing his flute and filling the hearts of ordinary people with extraordinary joy.

Another beautiful invocation says:

“नन्दगोकुलचन्द्राय यशोदातनयाय च।
देवकीनन्दनाय च नमो नमः श्रीकृष्णाय ते॥”

It is a loving salutation to Krishna as the moon of Nanda’s household, the beloved son of Yashoda and the joy of Devaki.

Perhaps this is one of the most endearing aspects of Krishna’s personality. He is simultaneously the Supreme Being and the playful child; the philosopher and the flute-player; the strategist and the compassionate friend.

Krishna teaches us that spirituality need not be separated from the ordinary joys of life.

There can be divinity in laughter.

There can be wisdom in simplicity.

There can be devotion in music.

And there can be holiness in love.

Krishna and the Battlefield Within

Yet Krishna’s greatest gift to humanity perhaps comes much later, on the battlefield of Kurukshetra.

Arjuna is overwhelmed by doubt. His bow slips from his hand. He is torn between duty and emotion, action and attachment, courage and fear.

Krishna does not fight the battle for him.

Instead, he gives him wisdom.

This is an important lesson. The Divine does not always remove our difficulties. Sometimes, it gives us the strength and clarity to face them ourselves.

The Bhagavad Gita teaches us to perform our duty sincerely without becoming enslaved by the fruits of our actions. It teaches us about self-discipline, devotion, knowledge, courage and surrender.

Krishna’s message is therefore as relevant today as it was on the battlefield of Kurukshetra.

Let Krishna Be Born Within Us

Perhaps the most meaningful way to celebrate Janmashtami is not merely to decorate a cradle, prepare sweets or stay awake until midnight.

It is to ask ourselves:

Has Krishna been born within me?

Has compassion replaced anger?

Has wisdom replaced confusion?

Has courage replaced fear?

Has humility replaced ego?

Has duty replaced selfishness?

Has love replaced hatred?

If the answer to these questions gradually becomes yes, then Janmashtami has truly entered our lives.

Because Krishna’s birth is not only an event to be remembered.

It is a state of consciousness to be awakened.

Every time we choose righteousness when dishonesty seems easier, Krishna is born within us.

Every time we forgive instead of taking revenge, Krishna is born within us.

Every time we stand beside someone who needs our support, Krishna is born within us.

Every time we perform our duty without selfish expectation, we walk towards the wisdom of Krishna.

The Eternal Flute

There is a special magic associated with Krishna’s flute.

The flute has no voice of its own. It becomes musical only when Krishna breathes through it.

Perhaps there is a spiritual lesson hidden within that simple image.

When the ego becomes hollow, the Divine can fill our lives with music.

When we surrender our arrogance, fear and excessive attachment, we become instruments of something greater than ourselves.

That may be one of Krishna’s most beautiful teachings: make yourself empty enough for the Divine to work through you.

As Janmashtami arrives, let the sound of Krishna’s flute remind us to pause amidst the noise of modern life and listen to the quieter voice within.

A Celebration of Eternal Hope

Janmashtami is ultimately a celebration of hope.

It tells us that tyranny does not last forever.

Darkness does not have the final word.

Fear cannot permanently defeat faith.

And whenever dharma appears to be fading, the human spirit must rise to restore it.

Krishna’s birth at midnight therefore carries a message for every generation:

Even when life seems darkest, never lose faith in the coming dawn.

May Shri Krishna bless us with the wisdom to distinguish right from wrong, the courage to follow the path of dharma, the humility to learn, the compassion to forgive and the strength to face life’s battles with serenity.

May the divine child of Devaki and Vasudeva, the beloved Kanha of Yashoda, the flute-player of Vrindavan and the Jagadguru of the Bhagavad Gita illuminate our hearts with His eternal wisdom.

श्रीकृष्ण गोविन्द हरे मुरारे।
हे नाथ नारायण वासुदेव॥

On this sacred Shri Krishna Janmashtami, may every home be filled with peace, every heart with love and every life with the light of dharma.

May Krishna be born not merely in our homes, but within our hearts.

जय श्रीकृष्ण!
राधे राधे!

What’s something you do completely differently from how you were raised?

Breaking the Mould: The Things I Do Differently from the Way I Was Raised

Every generation inherits more than a surname. We inherit habits, beliefs, fears, manners and unwritten rules about how life ought to be lived. Some of these become treasured traditions; others quietly follow us until, one day, we pause and ask ourselves: Is this really who I am, or merely who I was taught to be?

As I have travelled through the different seasons of life, I have realised that one of the most important forms of growing up is learning to distinguish between tradition and truth.

I was raised in an environment where discipline was highly valued. One learnt to respect elders, fulfil responsibilities, work hard and, above all, endure life’s difficulties without making too much noise about them. Feelings were often private possessions. One did not always speak about disappointment, loneliness or vulnerability. There was an unspoken understanding that strength meant carrying one’s burdens quietly.

Today, I do many things differently.

I believe that feelings deserve a voice.

I no longer consider expressing affection, gratitude or vulnerability a sign of weakness. If I care about someone, I try to tell them. If someone has helped me, I say thank you. If I miss somebody, I do not always hide it behind the convenient façade of being ‘fine’. Life has taught me that words left unsaid can become some of our heaviest regrets.

I have also become less convinced that silence is always virtuous.

I was raised to respect authority, but experience has taught me that respect does not require unquestioning obedience. It is possible to disagree without being disrespectful. It is possible to challenge an idea without insulting the person who holds it. And sometimes, asking why? is not rebellion; it is the beginning of wisdom.

Another difference lies in how I perceive success.

The world in which I grew up often measured achievement through tangible milestones — examinations, employment, status, possessions and social recognition. Today, I measure success rather differently. A peaceful mind, meaningful relationships, intellectual curiosity, the ability to remain kind in an increasingly impatient world, and the freedom to pursue something that gives life meaning seem far more valuable to me.

I have learnt that a full life is not necessarily a crowded life.

I also allow myself more room to pursue things simply because they bring joy. Reading a book, writing a page, listening to music, playing an instrument, watching the evening sky or having an unhurried conversation may accomplish nothing measurable — and yet such moments can enrich a life in ways that no certificate or possession can.

Perhaps the greatest difference, however, is that I have learnt to question the old idea that one must always appear strong.

There is courage in admitting that we do not know. There is dignity in saying that we were wrong. There is wisdom in changing our minds when experience presents us with a better truth. Growing older, I have discovered, should not make us rigid; it should make us more discerning.

Our parents and elders gave us the tools they believed would help us survive their world. But every generation enters a different world. We must therefore preserve the wisdom of the past without becoming prisoners of it.

I do not reject the way I was raised. On the contrary, I am grateful for much of it. It gave me discipline, resilience, responsibility and respect. But I have also learnt that inheritance is not instruction carved in stone. We may honour where we came from while choosing where we wish to go.

Perhaps that is what maturity really means — not abandoning our roots, but deciding which branches deserve to grow.

We are all, in some measure, unfinished manuscripts. Our childhood writes the opening chapters, circumstances add unexpected pages, and experience becomes our editor. Eventually, we pick up the pen ourselves.

And that is when life becomes truly our own.

What are your favorite 5 apps on your phone?

Between the Scrolls and the Silence: My Favourite Ways to Spend Time on the Phone

The telephone has travelled a remarkable distance in our lives. What was once a device meant merely for conversation has become a little universe held comfortably in the palm of the hand. It carries our photographs, books, music, memories, correspondence and, sometimes, an astonishing amount of useless information.

My phone, therefore, is not merely a means of communication. It is a window — and what I choose to look through that window says something about who I am.

One of my favourite pastimes on the phone is reading. I enjoy exploring articles, essays, poetry and interesting pieces of information that happen to catch my attention. There is something wonderfully serendipitous about beginning with one subject and, twenty minutes later, finding oneself wandering through an entirely different landscape of knowledge. The internet can sometimes resemble an enormous library without a librarian, where every corridor leads to another door.

I also spend considerable time writing. A thought can arrive at the most unexpected moment — while having tea, listening to music, taking a walk or simply staring out of a window. The phone allows me to capture that thought before it disappears into the ordinary noise of the day. Sometimes a single sentence becomes a paragraph; a paragraph becomes an idea; and an idea may eventually become a piece of writing.

Music is another favourite companion. My phone gives me access to songs from different eras and different corners of the world. I particularly enjoy returning to old melodies. There is a strange magic in a familiar song: the first few notes can unlock a room in the mind that we had forgotten existed. Music does not merely entertain us; it preserves emotional geography.

I also enjoy watching meaningful videos and documentaries. I am far less interested in endlessly consuming content than in discovering something that leaves me with a question, an insight or a new perspective. A good documentary can sometimes accomplish in an hour what several pages of ordinary conversation cannot.

Of course, there is also the inevitable scrolling. Social media has its charms. One encounters photographs, opinions, humour, celebrations, sadness and occasionally a sentence of such unexpected wisdom that it makes the entire scroll worthwhile. Yet I have learnt that scrolling is rather like eating snacks: easy to begin, difficult to stop, and not always nourishing.

Perhaps my most enjoyable phone pastime, however, is connecting with people. A brief message can cross distances that geography once made formidable. A photograph, a greeting or a simple “How are you?” can remind someone that they have not been forgotten. In an increasingly hurried world, such small gestures possess an understated tenderness.

But I also believe that the phone should have a boundary.

There are moments when I deliberately put it aside. A sunset does not need to be photographed to be beautiful. A piece of music does not always need to be recorded. A conversation does not become more meaningful because it is documented. And silence, perhaps the rarest luxury of modern life, cannot be scrolled through.

The real pleasure lies in using the phone without allowing the phone to use us.

Technology is a wonderful servant but a poor master. My favourite pastime on the phone, therefore, is not any particular application. It is the opportunity to learn, create, listen, remember and connect — and then, when the moment demands it, to switch the screen off and return to life itself.

After all, the most beautiful things in life rarely glow from a screen.

Some of them glow only in the heart.

What’s the best thing you’ve ever found randomly on the street?

The Treasure Beneath Our Feet: What I Found When I Wasn’t Looking

There are treasures we seek deliberately, and then there are those that quietly enter our lives by accident. The latter often leave the deeper impression, perhaps because they arrive without expectation, without preparation, and without the vanity of pursuit.

The best thing I have ever found randomly on the street was not gold, money, or anything of obvious material worth. It was an old, weather-beaten book.

I remember discovering it almost casually. It lay near the edge of a pavement, partly covered with dust, as though the world had walked past it countless times without noticing. Its cover was faded, its pages yellowed with age, and several corners had surrendered to time. Yet when I picked it up, I felt that peculiar excitement one experiences upon discovering something that seems to have been waiting specifically for one to notice it.

I turned the pages.

There were no jewels hidden between them, no forgotten banknotes, no grand secret. What I found instead was something infinitely more precious: the handwriting of a previous reader. Small annotations appeared in the margins—questions, underlined passages, occasional exclamations, and thoughts written in a hurried hand.

Suddenly, the book was no longer merely a book.

It had become a conversation between strangers separated by time.

I found myself wondering about the person who had owned it. Who were they? What had they lived through? Which sentence had moved them enough to underline it? Why had they written that particular word beside a particular paragraph? Had they carried the book through railway journeys, rainy afternoons and sleepless nights? And how had it finally come to rest, abandoned on an ordinary street?

Perhaps that is the strange beauty of life: we encounter fragments of other people’s stories without ever knowing the whole narrative.

We tend to measure treasure by price. A diamond has a valuation; a coin has a denomination; a painting has an auction price. But some things acquire value through association, mystery and memory. A child’s drawing, an old letter, a broken musical instrument or a book with someone’s handwriting may be worthless to the marketplace and priceless to the human heart.

Finding that book also taught me something about attention.

We spend much of our lives looking ahead—towards the next achievement, the next destination, the next possession. In doing so, we sometimes fail to notice what lies immediately beneath our feet. The world is constantly leaving little gifts along our path, but they rarely arrive wrapped.

Sometimes they are found in a pavement crack.

Sometimes in an unexpected conversation.

Sometimes in a forgotten photograph.

And sometimes, quite literally, in an old book lying in the dust.

I kept the book for many years. Its pages continued to deteriorate, but its meaning deepened. Whenever I opened it, I was reminded that every object carries a history, even when we cannot read it.

Perhaps the greatest things we find randomly are not things at all. They are moments of wonder—the sudden realisation that the ordinary world is filled with extraordinary stories.

We go out looking for something valuable.

And occasionally, life places something precious directly in our path.

The secret is not always in finding it.

It is in noticing.