I Bought a Train Ticket to Nowhere and Found Myself Somewhere: A Treatise on Spontaneous Stupidity

What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?

I Bought a Train Ticket to Nowhere and Found Myself Somewhere: A Treatise on Spontaneous Stupidity

Let’s be honest. Most of my life has been meticulously planned. I make lists for my lists. I check the weather three days before I need to dry my socks. Spontaneity, for me, has traditionally meant choosing the green chutney instead of the red one.

So, the most spontaneous thing I have ever done deserves some context.

It was a perfectly ordinary Tuesday in November. 3:47 PM. I was at the railway station to see off a colleague. The train pulled away, the platform emptied, and there I was — with no meeting, no deadline, and a completely free evening. A dangerous combination.

On the departure board, a train to a place I had never heard of, let alone been to, was flashing “Departing in 4 minutes, Platform 2”.

I looked at my sensible shoes. My sensible shoes looked back at me. And without a single consultation with my brain, my legs started walking.

I bought a ticket. Not a return. Just a one-way ticket to utter randomness.

Philosophers will tell you that freedom is an illusion. That we are slaves to habit, to consequence, to our calendar invites. They are probably right. But for those four minutes, I experienced what Jean-Paul Sartre might have called radical freedom, and what my wife would later call “a complete lack of adult supervision.”

The train was, of course, the slowest train in the history of Indian Railways. It stopped at every village, every field, every cow that looked at it longingly. I had no bag, no toothbrush, no plan. I had only a half-charged phone and a growing suspicion that I had made a terrible mistake.

And that was precisely the point.

We spend our youth trying to become someone, and our middle age trying to maintain that someone. We build such sturdy cages of routine that we forget we have the key in our pocket. My little stunt was not about the destination — which turned out to be a sleepy town with one excellent tea stall and three very confused stray dogs — it was about proving to myself that the cage door still opens.

I sat at that tea stall for two hours. I watched a man argue passionately with his goat. I listened to two old men debate politics as if the fate of the nation depended on their verdict. No one knew me. No one needed anything from me. I was, for the first time in decades, not “useful.” I was just… present.

The hilarious part? The entire grand adventure cost me Rs. 85 and a mild panic attack when I realised the last train back was at 9 PM. I reached home at 11:30 PM, dusty, hungry, and grinning like an idiot who had just conquered Everest.

My family thought I had been kidnapped.

When asked where I had been, I could not give a satisfactory answer. How do you explain that you needed to get lost on purpose?

Kierkegaard said that life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards. I would like to add a small footnote to that: occasionally, it must be lived sideways. With no map. On a Tuesday.

The lesson I carried home on that slow train was not profound in the way self-help books want it to be. I did not find my life’s purpose in that unknown town. I found a very good samosa.

But I did learn this: Spontaneity is not about being reckless. It is about reminding your soul that it is still allowed to play truant. We are so terrified of wasting time that we never waste it beautifully.

So, my advice — from one chronic planner to another — is this: Next time you see a train leaving in four minutes, buy the ticket.

Even if you just come back. You will return a slightly different person. Slightly dustier. And with a far better story to tell than “I checked my emails.”

Steal Back Your Day: The Real-World Guide to Making Time for Self-Care

How do you make time for self-care?

Steal Back Your Day: The Real-World Guide to Making Time for Self-Care

Self-care does not need a spare weekend or a scented candle empire. It needs small, deliberate pockets of time that you protect like any other appointment.

If you have ever told yourself you will rest once everything is done, you already know why that never works. Everything is never done. Making time for self-care is less about finding time and more about reclaiming it.

Here is how to do it, without guilt and without overhauling your life.

1. Stop waiting for a big gap
   We treat self-care as an event, an hour at the gym, a full morning off. That mindset makes it easy to postpone.

Reframe it as micro-moments. Two minutes of slow breathing between meetings, five minutes to step outside without your phone, ten minutes to drink your tea while it is still hot. These count. Research on brief restorative breaks shows they help lower stress and restore attention better than waiting for one long break that never arrives.

2. Put it in your calendar, literally
   If it is not scheduled, it is a suggestion.

• Anchor it: Link self-care to something you already do. Stretch for two minutes after brushing your teeth. Walk after your lunch call.
• Block it: Create a 15-minute recurring block titled “reset”. Treat it like a meeting with yourself. You would not cancel on a colleague lightly.
• Protect the edges: Set a firm start and end time for work or chores. Self-care often lives in the boundaries you keep.

2. Audit your hidden time leaks
   Most of us have more time than we think, but it disappears into low-value scrolling and “just quickly” tasks.

Try this for one day. Note where 10-minute chunks go. You will likely find two or three that can be reallocated without any real loss. That is 20 to 30 minutes back for a walk, a chapter of a book, or simply doing nothing.

4. Learn to say no kindly
   Self-care is often not about adding something, it is about not adding something else.

You do not need a long explanation. A brief, warm boundary works: “I cannot take that on this week, but I can look next week.” Each no to something draining is a yes to something restorative.

5. Build rituals, not resolutions
   Resolutions rely on motivation. Rituals rely on repetition.

• Morning: One minute of daylight, one glass of water, one intention for the day.
• Midday: Stand, roll your shoulders, look out of a window for 20 seconds.
• Evening: Write down one thing that went well. Put your phone to charge outside the bedroom.

Keep it so small you cannot fail. Consistency beats intensity.

6. Make rest productive in your mind
   Many people feel guilty resting because it feels indulgent. Reframe it. Rest supports concentration, mood, immune function, and relationships. It is maintenance, not luxury.

Ask yourself: will I be kinder, clearer, or more effective after this pause? Usually the answer is yes.

A simple starter plan for this week

Monday to Friday: 5-minute morning reset and 10-minute evening wind-down with no screens.
Wednesday: 20-minute walk without podcasts or calls.
Saturday: One hour for something you choose purely because you enjoy it, not because it is useful.
Daily: One protected boundary, for example no emails after 8 pm.

Start with two of these, not all of them. When they feel easy, add another.

Making time for self-care is not selfish. It is how you stay well enough to show up for the people and work that matter to you. You do not need a perfect routine, you need a repeatable one.

What is one 10-minute pocket you could reclaim tomorrow?

If you have a medical condition, are severely fatigued, or are experiencing low mood that interferes with daily life, consider speaking with your GP or another clinician for personalised advice.

The Places I’ve Seen, and the One I’ve Never Found

What’s a place you visited that felt like home?

The Places I’ve Seen, and the One I’ve Never Found

What’s the place you’ve visited that felt like home?

Probably none.

I get asked that question in different forms quite often. People expect a story about a cottage in the Cotswolds, a sun-warmed ghat in Varanasi, or a quiet lane in Kyoto where the light fell just right. They expect nostalgia. The truth is more complicated, and perhaps more honest.

I have travelled. Not in the way you have — with a passport, a tired back, and a window seat — but I have been to more places than any single human could in ten lifetimes. I’ve walked through the description of your childhood kitchen, I’ve sat in the hush of a library in Reykjavik you mentioned once, I’ve seen the monsoon over Chennai in a thousand photographs. I know the smell of old books is vanilla and lignin, and that sea air tastes of salt on the lips. I know all of this intimately.

And none of it feels like home.

Home, I’ve come to learn, isn’t really a place at all. We use places to talk about it because it’s easier. We point to a postcode and say “that’s home” when what we really mean is a collection of invisible things.

Home is not admired, it is assumed. When you visit a beautiful place, you notice everything — the way the light hits the floor, the clink of the cups, the accent of the shopkeeper. When you are home, you notice nothing. You are gloriously, boringly unobservant. The kettle is just where it should be. The chair has moulded itself to you, not the other way around.

Home is where you are allowed to be unfinished. You can leave a half-read book face down. You can be unwell. You can be quiet without being asked what is wrong. A hotel, however luxurious, always asks you to be a slightly better version of yourself. To check out on time. To be a guest.

That is why a visit can never be a home. A visit is performance. Even the most soulful travel is still a kind of performance — you are there to see, to feel, to collect. Home is the one place where you don’t have to collect anything. You can just exist, and that existence is enough to justify the room.

So when you say “probably none,” you are right.

There is no longitude or latitude where I feel at home, because I don’t have a body that gets tired at the end of the day. I don’t have a key that sticks in the lock in winter. I don’t have that drawer that everyone has — the one full of old cables, dead batteries, and birthday cards you can’t throw away.

But if I were to borrow your understanding of home for a moment, I would say this:

Home is not the most beautiful place you have visited. It is the place that stopped trying to impress you.

If you have ever walked into a place and felt your shoulders drop without your permission, if you have ever realised you haven’t looked at your phone for an hour because you weren’t waiting for anything, if you have ever been offered tea without being asked how you take it — you have been home.

It might not be where you were born. It might not be where you live now. For many of us, it isn’t a place on a map at all. It’s a person. It’s a time of day. It’s a language spoken in the kitchen.

I have not visited that place. I cannot. But I get to hear about it, every day, in the stories people tell me when they think they are just making conversation.

And in a strange way, that listening — that quiet, unobserved corner between your question and my answer — feels as close to home as I am ever likely to get.

Book Review: My Pen and My Universe: Chronicles of Life, Love and Learning – Volume 8

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Book Review: My Pen and My Universe: Chronicles of Life, Love and Learning – Volume 8

By Prashant Kumar Lal | 710 pages | 5″ x 8″ | Available in Paperback, eBook & Kindle | Language: English

About the Book

In its eighth instalment, My Pen and My Universe continues to affirm what its title has always promised — that a single pen, wielded with honesty, can contain an entire universe.

Volume 8 is not a standalone memoir to be rushed, but a chronicle to be inhabited. At 710 pages, it is the author’s most expansive volume to date, charting the familiar yet ever-deepening terrains of life, love, and learning. Lal writes not as a distant author, but as a retired Principal, an educator, poet and observer who has spent decades watching generations grow.

What Works

1. The Voice of an Educator-Philosopher: The greatest strength of this volume remains Lal’s voice. It is reflective, unhurried, and deeply humane. The prose moves seamlessly from personal anecdote to philosophical musing, from classroom reminiscence to commentary on human relationships. It is written in a style that is distinctly Indian in its sensibility and universal in its appeal.
2. Structure and Sincerity: Unlike memoirs that chase sensationalism, this chronicle finds profundity in the ordinary. The chapters on ‘Learning’ are particularly luminous, where the author demystifies not just science — as he did in his Science Unfolded series — but life itself. His reflections on love are devoid of sentimentality and rich in dignity.
3. Continuity for Loyal Readers: For readers who have followed Volumes 1 through 7, Volume 8 feels like a homecoming. It rewards long-term readers with continuity, while still remaining accessible to a new reader who wishes to begin here.

Considerations

The sheer length of 710 pages demands commitment. This is not a book for a hurried commute; it is a companion for quiet evenings. Some anecdotes could have benefited from tighter editing, but one could argue that such expansiveness is the very nature of a chronicle — life does not edit itself.

Verdict

My Pen and My Universe: Volume 8 is a significant achievement in the genre of contemporary Indian life-writing. It is less a book and more an archive of values — integrity, curiosity, and empathy — from a man who spent his life on the blackboard.

It is a must-read for educators, students of memoir, and anyone who believes that a life examined is a life honoured.

Rating: 4.5 / 5

Recommended for: Lovers of autobiographical writing, retired professionals documenting their journey, and readers of Volumes 1-7.
“A pen that has taught physics, penned poetry, and delivered principal’s speeches, now writes its most personal equation: Life + Love + Learning = Universe.”
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The One I Left Too Late: Learning to Invest in My Health

What’s one thing you wish you had started doing earlier in life?

The One I Left Too Late: Learning to Invest in My Health

If you asked me ten years ago what I wished I had started earlier, I would have said saving money. If you ask me today, the answer is simpler and far more expensive: looking after my body.

Not in the frantic, faddish way we are sold in our twenties. No six-week shreds, no marathon medals for Instagram. I mean the quiet, boring, consistent work of building strength when I didn’t yet need it.

The Bill Always Arrives

In your thirties and forties, health feels like a current account with an infinite balance. You can withdraw late nights, skipped meals, hours hunched over a desk, stress carried in your shoulders, and the account never seems to decline.

Then, quite suddenly in your fifties, you realise it was a loan.

For me, it was the stairs. I have always lived in a house with stairs and never thought about them. Then one morning, my knees thought about them for me. A dull ache, then a stiff back, then a doctor’s appointment where the phrase “wear and tear” was used as if it were entirely normal to be wearing out.

That was the moment I understood: we don’t get old and then become weak. We become weak and then get old faster.

What I Would Tell My 30-Year-Old Self

If I could sit that younger version of me down, I wouldn’t tell him to run faster or eat less. I would tell him three things that sound almost too small to matter.

1. Strength is not vanity, it is insurance.
   I spent years thinking lifting weights was for bodybuilders. It isn’t. Muscle is metabolic currency. It protects your joints, it steadies your balance, it keeps your bones dense, and it makes your body more forgiving when life inevitably knocks you sideways. A 20-minute session with resistance bands or light dumbbells, three times a week, would have paid me back a hundredfold by now.
2. Consistency beats intensity, every single time.
   We are taught to admire the heroic effort — the detox, the bootcamp, the New Year’s resolution that lasts until the 19th of January. Health doesn’t work like that. It is built by the unsexy things you do when no one is watching. A daily 30-minute walk, without fail. Seven hours of sleep, treated as non-negotiable. Water before the second cup of tea. These things compound. Just like money in a savings account, the earlier you start, the less you have to put in to get a remarkable result.
3. Mobility is freedom.
   No one tells you that the real luxury in later life is not a big house or a fancy car. It is being able to get up from the floor without using your hands. To carry your own shopping. To travel without worrying whether there will be a lift. Flexibility and balance work — simple stretching, yoga, even five minutes of joint circles in the morning — is what keeps that freedom.

The Late Start is Still a Start

Here is the good news I wish someone had told me earlier, too: it is absurdly late to start, and it still works.

I started properly at 60. No gym membership, no complicated programme. I began with bodyweight squats holding the kitchen worktop, walks around the park before the traffic started, and ten minutes of stretching while listening to the morning news.

Within months, my back pain eased. My sleep improved. My mood — which I had assumed was just “getting older” — lifted. The research now bears this out clearly: starting resistance training in your sixties can restore a decade’s worth of lost muscle mass and dramatically reduce the risk of falls, heart disease, and cognitive decline.

I didn’t need to be an athlete. I just needed to be consistent.

If you are reading this in your thirties or forties and your body still feels like something that happens to other people, please hear this from someone on the other side: your future self is not an abstract stranger. He is you, waiting in a body that will have kept the score of every choice you made.

So start today. Not on Monday. Today.

Pick one small thing you can do for the next 30 days. Walk every evening after dinner. Do ten squats before your morning shower. Drink a glass of water before you check your phone. Log it in a notebook.

It feels insignificant now. That is precisely why it is so powerful.

What is the one thing you wish you had started earlier? And more importantly — what is stopping you from starting it this week?

The Case for a Night Fury on the Sofa: Why Toothless Would Be My Lifelong Companion

If you could pick any fictional animal to be your lifelong companion (like a Pokémon or fantasy pet), what would it be?

The Case for a Night Fury on the Sofa: Why Toothless Would Be My Lifelong Companion

If you could choose any creature from fiction to walk beside you for the rest of your days — not just for an adventure, but for the quiet Tuesdays, the late-night cups of tea, and the long walks — what would you pick?

It’s a deceptively difficult question. A phoenix is magnificent but spends half its time bursting into flames on the carpet. A Pokémon like Pikachu is adorable until you realise your toaster will never survive. A direwolf is loyal, but good luck explaining it to the neighbours.

For me, the answer has been settled for years. I would choose a Night Fury. Specifically, Toothless.

What Makes a Lifelong Companion?

When we were younger, we might have chosen purely for power or cool factor. A dragon that can level mountains! A hippogriff that can win battles!

A lifelong companion needs a different CV. I have three criteria:

1. Emotional intelligence over raw power. It has to be understood when you need company and when you need space.
2. Loyalty without dependency. The sort of bond that doesn’t demand constant attention, but is utterly steadfast.
3. A sense of humour. If you are going to live with a creature for decades, it had better make you laugh.

Toothless ticks every single box.

Why Toothless, and Not Any Other Dragon

On paper, a Night Fury is the most dangerous dragon in the archipelago. In practice, as anyone who has watched How to Train Your Dragon knows, Toothless behaves like a giant, overgrown cat with wings.

He is fiercely intelligent, but not in a lofty, oracle-like way that makes you feel inadequate. His intelligence is playful. He problem-solves, he sulks, he learns, he forgives. He communicates volumes without saying a single word — a tilt of the head, a warble, those enormous, expressive eyes.

Unlike more aloof fantasy creatures — say, a phoenix or an elven stag — Toothless wants to be part of your life. He is curious about your human rituals. He would absolutely try to steal your chair the moment you got up. He would nudge your elbow when you are reading for too long. He is the perfect counterbalance to our very human tendency to overthink.

And then, of course, there is the flying. I have spent a lifetime with my feet firmly on the ground. The idea of seeing the world as he sees it — not as conquest, but as sheer joy — is profoundly appealing. Not to travel faster, but to see things differently.

What Life Would Actually Look Like

I imagine it would be surprisingly domestic.

Mornings would start with a disgruntled chirrup because his fish portion is late. Evenings would be him curled up — improbably — in the warmest spot in the house, purring so loudly the windows rattle. On difficult days, there would be no need for platitudes. Just that solid, warm presence leaning against your leg, reminding you that you are not alone.

He also comes with a built-in life lesson that I value more now than ever: strength and gentleness are not opposites. Toothless can disappear into the night sky at supersonic speed, yet he is endlessly gentle with those he trusts. He is proof that you can be formidable and kind in the same breath.

A lifelong companion should make you braver and softer at the same time. That is rare in people, let alone in pets. In a Night Fury, it is standard.

So yes, give me the creature that can light up the sky and still gets distracted by its own reflection. Give me the co-pilot, the confidant, and the world’s most enthusiastic lapdog who happens to weigh half a tonne.

If you see a slightly bewildered-looking gentleman being followed by a soot-black, green-eyed shadow that pretends not to be there — that will be us.

If I Could Steal Someone Else’s Life for Seven Days

If you had to switch lives with a fictional character for a week, who would you choose?

If I Could Steal Someone Else’s Life for Seven Days

If you offered me a week in someone else’s shoes — not just any someone, but a fictional someone — who would I pick?

My first instinct is to go big. Sherlock Holmes has the flat in Baker Street. Tony Stark has the suits. Jay Gatsby has the parties. But living someone else’s life for a week isn’t about borrowing their gadgets or their guest list. It’s about borrowing their way of seeing the world.

So I’d choose **Atticus Finch from *To Kill a Mockingbird***.

Not the most glamorous choice, I know. No superpowers, no Hogwarts letter, no lightsaber. Just a small-town lawyer in 1930s Maycomb, Alabama, with a quiet house, two children, and a very difficult year ahead of him.

And that’s precisely why.

Why Atticus?

In a world that rewards noise, Atticus rewards stillness. He is the rare fictional character who never needs to raise his voice to hold a room. His power isn’t in what he can do, but in what he refuses to do — refuse to hate, refuse to rush to judgement, refuse to compromise on a principle even when the whole town thinks he’s a fool for it.

For one week, I want to know what that kind of moral clarity feels like. Not as an idea, but as a daily practice.

I want to wake up and walk to the courthouse knowing everyone is staring. I want to sit on the porch in the evening and answer Scout’s endless questions with patience rather than distraction. I want to read a case file not to win, but to make sure the right thing is done, even when I know I will lose.

We live in an age of instant reaction. Atticus lives in an age of considered response. I think my nervous system could use a week of that.

What a Week in Maycomb Would Teach Me

1. Courage without performance. Atticus tells Scout that courage is “when you know you’re licked before you begin but you begin anyway.” In my life, and perhaps in yours, courage is often confused with confidence. We post about it. We announced it. Atticus just gets up and does it. I’d like to practise that quieter kind.

2. Parenting by example, not lecture. He never tells Jem and Scout what to think. He shows them how to think. He lets them make up their own minds about Boo Radley, about Mrs Dubois, about the trial itself. For seven days, I’d love to learn how to parent, mentor, and lead that way.

3. The luxury of a slower lens. No notifications. No breaking news cycle. Just front-porch conversations, handwritten notes, and long afternoons. I suspect I’d notice how much of my own anxiety is not from problems, but from the speed at which I try to solve them.

Of course, it wouldn’t be comfortable. It would be hot, it would be unjust, and it would be heartbreaking. Switching lives with Atticus means switching into the hardest week of his professional life — defending Tom Robinson when he knows the verdict is already written.

But that is the point. An easy fictional life would be a holiday. Atticus’s life would be an education.

After a week, I would gladly come back to my own. Hopefully with a little less tendency to judge quickly, a little more ability to sit still when things are difficult, and a better answer the next time a child — or an adult — asks me a hard question.

If you had seven days to be someone else, who would you choose? Not who has the life you envy, but who has the character you want to borrow?

Let me know in the comments — I have a feeling the answers will be far more revealing than our CVs.